Joshua 6:1 —– Now Jericho was securely shut up because of the children of Israel; none went out, and none came in.
Jericho was a strong city surrounded by a thick wall. A wall gives an assurance of protection It is the same with a person who is offended.
What walls do is create the feeling of being protected and through having these, one will feel safe. The problem with having walls is that not only do they keep everyone out; they also keep one locked in. One ends up creating their own prison.
And if one cuts themselves off from others through having walls, it is going to lead to all kinds of consequences. Relationships will suffer and as this happens one will also suffer. Isolation and feelings of being alone and cut off are also likely to occur. Trust in others will not exist and without that relationships are not really possible.
When a person is offended he or she keeps reminding themselves of the past hurts and thus builds walls around their lives. We construct walls when we are hurt because we do not want to go through that pain again. People do not ask for a divorce on a whim, but when they feel offended and are hurt constantly, offence builds up. Offence brings the person to a point where they start keeping people out of their lives.
A person in depression goes through negative meditation day and night. It gets to a point when the person does not want a relationship with any person.
When in offence we doubt the actions of those who hurt us. We allow doubt to confuse us. In offence we open our walls to only those who we believe to be correct. We look for others who agree with us, even though they may be of a mindset that it wrong for us.
Sometimes we can fortify ourselves into a point where we want to do something but we find ourselves doing the opposite. We start to lose control of ourselves. What starts off as a way to protect ourselves, leads us onto the path of defeat. At that point, we are not only cautious about who comes in but so in terror of future injuries that we cannot venture outside our fortress.
When you hold back, you limit your potential happiness and your future.
MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD IS MY NUMBER ONE FOCUS. I KNOW THAT IF I TAKE CARE OF THAT, GOD WILL TAKE CARE OF EVERYTHING ELSE.