1Corinthians 13: 4 – 8 ——-Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
During the time I was separated from my wife, I was really sad. I prayed, fasted, taught the Word of God but my situation remained the same. I questioned God – Why? Why this separation? And He said’ You don’t really love her”. I was aghast,” I love her so very much I am doing all I can to get her back “. And the above scripture revealed to me the hollowness of my love for my wife.
I always wanted to do things my way because I believed I am the head of the family. I would be angry if she dared do anything against my wishes. I was constantly thinking of my own desires. But the above scripture exhorted me to be willing to die to my desires and be happy to do things her way too.
I started practising living according to the scripture and that changed my whole character. It was only after I changed my character that she returned back to our marriage and our life could never have been better. That scripture saved my marriage; but only when I made a quality decision to follow that wholeheartedly.
When we hurt someone close to us, that person plays it safe by building walls around themselves. They think these walls will prevent them from ever being hurt again. After a while, that person becomes captives within those walls. Those walls can be broken only when the person who has hurt the other, dies to themselves and pours love into the relationship. Easier said than done! It is very easy to hurt someone, but a lot of time and effort goes into healing that hurt.
When I got back together with my wife, she always played safe. The more love I invested in the relationship, the greater the change in our relationship. Until the day she understood that she could trust me with her love.
The best part that happened was that it drastically changed my character. I stuck to the decision I made to do things God’s way. When we operate in love we look like a fool in this world, but the end result is victory. Such a person cannot be defeated by the devil because evil has no defence against love. That is because God is love, and when you love, love walks with you.
A real man chooses to love, honour, respect, adore and be faithful to one woman.